1. Lead by example:
If you teach your kids something that you do not follow yourself, they might not take you seriously so set an example of your own actions. As we know, "Action are louder than words."
2. 'Telling' is not 'Teaching':
One of the most important mistakes in parenting today's teens is where we 'tell' them to do something. Instead of having a 'monologue' we should try and have a 'dialogue' with our teenagers.
For example, it will be better to say, "I think this is a better way to finish your homework, what do you think?" - Here you are involving your teenage kid to make a choice. On the other hand when you say, "Just do it as I say' - You will be forcing your choice on your child and that might not be the best tip for parenting.
3. Have a 'Dialogue':
Get to know what your teenage kid's generation thinks about things. You might be surprised with how times are changing and so are methods and ways of conducting an action. So instead of being a very authoritative parent, try to understand why your child thinks in a certain way that differs from yours. Have a dialogue with them, connect with them on their level and communicate in a way that you respect their thoughts while explaining where you come from.
4. Be a Parent AND a Friend:
You do not always have to be directive. You can also lend an ear to your child. This could be one of the best ways of parenting your teen. To create a safe and comfort zone for your teen to confide in is the best things you could do.
5. Conduct Family Meetings:
Make it a norm to communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your child. Create a space where each and every family member can express themselves freely and spend time together. This will encourage positive attitude, belongingness and feelings of support.
6. Be there!
Make sure to recognise any changes in your child's behaviour and talk about it with them. Take them for a walk or speak to them before bed about how their day was and if something happened to make them feel good or bad. It is important in this specific age to help teenagers feel comfortable in their own skin. With puberty and changes in physical appearances, many teenagers are learning about their identities. This is one of the most crucial stages of an individual's life. So make time as a parent and be there for your teenage kids!
7. Reinforcement instead of Punishment:
Try to create a relationship where your child is reinforced to act in an appropriate manner and when they commit a mistake, they want to work towards repairing the relationship. Punishment might not be the best way, it might push away the children farther from you. Instead, communicate your feelings and encourage them to work towards better behavioural choices.
8. Know the readiness:
Every child is unique. Some teenagers might be ready earlier to become independent and if you don't allow it, you will see rebellion.
On the other hand, some children take time to adapt to independence and you must recognise this and facilitate their changes.
9. Prioritise eating meals together:
This would give each person in the family time to connect with each other and create a space to share their experiences and learnings.
10. Encourage good self-care:
Teach your teenager kid the importance of self-hygiene. Lead them by example into self-care which is not just physical but also mental. Engage in these activities with them. Whether its skipping screens before bedtime and reading books instead to skipping coffee and choosing fresh juices, highlight the importance of making these tiny choices earlier in life.